“The only thing constant is change.”
-Heraclitus, Greek philosopher
You’re struggling to cope with the death of someone you love.
Unfortunately, you’re getting a divorce, and it’s been really hard on you emotionally.
You’ve just moved to Bloomington and you’re not sure how to start building a life here.
You are going through a major life transition and having hard time coping with the emotions you’re experiencing. Now, you feel like your stuck and you don’t know how to move forward.
There’s no denying that life often presents us with our fair share of challenges, usually in the form of sudden change. These life transitions, even the positive ones, can throw you into a tailspin. They can leave you feeling stressed, confused, and vulnerable. But, with the right tools and mindset, you have the power to not only overcome any adversity, but transform into a more authentic and confident version of yourself.
Change Can be Good
Change, even difficult change, can give you an opportunity to grow personally. It gives you the opportunity to see what you’re made of; to become stronger, more confident, and better prepared for what life throws at you next. With each new challenge, you can develop new personal skills. And, you can become more self-aware.
Common Life Transitions
Some of the most common life transitions I help clients cope with during counseling include:
Going to college
Living on your own for the first time in the dorms is hard. Now, you’ve gotten a taste of freedom. But, you’re trying to cope with peer pressure, figuring out who “you” are, and keeping up with classes and homework.
Getting married
Combining two lives, for better and for worse, is hard. You have to deal with each other’s baggage, insecurities, and families. And you have to discuss hard topics about things like finances, future children, and who is taking out the trash!
Parenting
Parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever have. So you might be feeling overwhelmed about meeting your child’s physical and emotional needs, and scared of screwing up!
A Breakup, Separation, or Divorce
When a relationship ends, you are left grieving the loss of this person in your life and the idea of the future you thought you were going to have with this person. Also, you have to navigate separating finances, living arrangements, and diving your assets. You may also have to deal with setting up custody arrangements and lost friendships. It can even impact the way you see yourself. It can make you more insecure and anxious.
Job Loss or Career Change
Losing your job is one of the hardest things an adult may have to deal with. Now you’re struggling to make ends meet, not sure what you are going to do without a paycheck.
Maybe you’re changing careers and beginning a new job. Although you’re ready for a change, you feel nervous about fitting into your new work culture and navigating your role in the company.
Death of a loved one
Grief is so hard. Now, you’re working through the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. And, you may be feeling lost and lonely and struggling to process how this person is gone.
Coming Out
You may be scared to tell your loved ones that you are a part of the LGBTQIA+ community, but wanting to live your life as your authentic self.
“When shifts and transitions in life shake you to the core, see that as a sign of the greatness that’s about to occur.”